Could 2014 Be the Year of the Introvert?

If you're an introvert, count all the blessings of living in 2014! Celebrate knowing yourself and think about how your gifts can make an impact on others. - sandrapeoples.comFifteen years ago, I didn’t understand why I didn’t want to be around people all the time.

I had a roommate and lived on a hall full of girls, in a dorm full of girls, on a campus full of people. There weren’t many quiet spaces. And why would I want a quiet space? There’s too much to talk about, too much to do. “Let’s go!” friends would say. And I would, even though it seemed to wear me out much faster than it wore them out.

I didn’t understand why staying in was more fun for me than going out. I figured I just had a middle-aged mindset in the body of a twenty-year-old and pressed on. That’s what college is for, right?

But now I finally feel like I know myself. In 2012, I read Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain (affiliate link). In 2013, I figured out I’m an INTJ.

Now it’s 2014, and I think it could be the year of the introvert.

All the parts of me that I thought were wrong or weaknesses, turned out to just be character traits. And these traits could be strengths.

I don’t have to feel different or weird. I just need to know myself and pay attention to what makes me feel my best. Like having a little quiet time on Sunday afternoons, after a morning of teaching my Sunday school class and being with our church family. Or, saving time at the end of a busy day to read in silence.

If you think about it, it’s never been easier to be an introvert.

If we want, we can stay home and still work (more and more professions have options to work from home, realizing it can save businesses money). We can communicate primarily through the written word, by blogging, emailing, texting, and updating our social media sites. We don’t have to answer the phone (they can just leave a message). We can order almost anything we need from Amazon.

In fact, we can be more social than ever before, using all the technology at our finger tips. It’s introvert heaven-on-earth these days. With all that time to ourselves to feel charged, we can give more time and energy to the people we love most (including our spouses, who are usually extroverts).

If you’re an introvert, count all the blessings of living in 2014! Celebrate knowing yourself and think about how your gifts can make an impact on others.

Isaiah 30:15 says, “in quietness and in trust shall be your strength.” See your quietness as a strength and enjoy the Year of the Introvert!

4 thoughts on “Could 2014 Be the Year of the Introvert?

  1. For me, 2012 was the year I realized and accepted that being an introvert does not mean I am deficient, just different. This was revolutionary and relieved such a burden of desiring to be like my extroverted friends. Then, 2013 was the year I learned that being an introvert does not mean that I can take that personality characteristic to an extreme and use it as an excuse to avoid people. Just as our Trinitarian God has community as part of His nature, I also was created for community. Thus, in spite of my natural inclination toward being alone, I am called to reach out to others and to use my gifts to serve them. So I’ve come full circle–I now seek community not to push myself to be a better person but to better love others. I enjoy the blessing of being able to serve from behind a screen, yet I am always mindful that I still need those face-to-face, or even phone-to-phone (which is still draining to my introverted self) interactions to live and love as God intended.

    P.S. Leaving a long comment is difficult because with every sentence comes greater risk for the scrutiny of your editorial eye. As hard as I tried, I am sure there is at least one typo (there always is) and a few punctation errors. 😉

    • Beautiful Shelli! Sounds like we’re on the same path. Love how you point out the importance of our Trinitarian God and His gift of community. I’m still finding that balance of time for self and time for others.

      P.S. And don’t worry, I totally turn off the editor eyes for comments. 😉

  2. I think the hardest challenge of being an introvert is raising an extravert. I love my girl and ALL aspects of her personality, but the constant talk-aloud-as-I-think trait gets on my nerves a tiny bit. 🙂

  3. I’m an INTJ too, and made the same discovery over the last few years – and oh, the relief that came with it…the freedom (!) to enjoy quiet and stillness. We have six kids, some of whom are special needs…and not introverts…and I confess I often hide in the bathroom just to regain some peace in the middle of the day, in the middle of the chaos. 🙂

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